It's curious how we commit mistakes and then get angry when somebody else does. If you commit mistakes too, then why should you get angry when another person does?
I'm not telling you not to tell a person if he/she is doing something wrong because you don't have moral authority to do it (actually, I personally disagree with that issue, but that can be another post's topic), but, for the love of God, don't go mad!
Face it, mistakes happen, and as you also commit them you should, you must understand the situation (at least it's quite obvious it was intentional... and even if, you shouldn't rage).
Actually, being logical with this, going mad makes you have a more imperative voice tone, and people just tend to close their minds when they feel they're being "attacked", so if you really want a person to listen to you, first chill yourself out (have in mind that mistakes happen, want it or not it's something normal), start a nice, serene and polite conversation, let the other person spit all his "arguments", and ONCE you know how the other person exactly thinks, point by point, you can start diferring with logical arguments each of them to make him come to mind. Interrupting the other person while he/she is talking will just make him/her rage more and won't want to listen to you; everybody knows what a conversation is about, it's mostly based on respect, there is no exception for this rule: you respect, I respect (still I differ with this point, but common people just act like that, so be smart).
Anyway, my point is, let's imagine somebody brakes a CD of yours, going mad, shouting and getting desperated will just rage the other person as well and maybe won't ever apologise. What is more, he/she can think "Well done, get that for being a grumpy" and you didn't solve anything. If a friend forgot your book in his home, face it, mistakes happen, he didn't have that in mind (just as you don't have many important things in mind), understand it can happen, understand it happens.
Try to have a cool and logic mind about things, seriously, that will evade (or even solve) many problems, try not raging at anything, everything (excepting death) is solvable, so just chill out and live peaceful life.
Anyways, thanks for reading and greetings.
G'luck out there!
I'm not telling you not to tell a person if he/she is doing something wrong because you don't have moral authority to do it (actually, I personally disagree with that issue, but that can be another post's topic), but, for the love of God, don't go mad!
Face it, mistakes happen, and as you also commit them you should, you must understand the situation (at least it's quite obvious it was intentional... and even if, you shouldn't rage).
Actually, being logical with this, going mad makes you have a more imperative voice tone, and people just tend to close their minds when they feel they're being "attacked", so if you really want a person to listen to you, first chill yourself out (have in mind that mistakes happen, want it or not it's something normal), start a nice, serene and polite conversation, let the other person spit all his "arguments", and ONCE you know how the other person exactly thinks, point by point, you can start diferring with logical arguments each of them to make him come to mind. Interrupting the other person while he/she is talking will just make him/her rage more and won't want to listen to you; everybody knows what a conversation is about, it's mostly based on respect, there is no exception for this rule: you respect, I respect (still I differ with this point, but common people just act like that, so be smart).
Anyway, my point is, let's imagine somebody brakes a CD of yours, going mad, shouting and getting desperated will just rage the other person as well and maybe won't ever apologise. What is more, he/she can think "Well done, get that for being a grumpy" and you didn't solve anything. If a friend forgot your book in his home, face it, mistakes happen, he didn't have that in mind (just as you don't have many important things in mind), understand it can happen, understand it happens.
Try to have a cool and logic mind about things, seriously, that will evade (or even solve) many problems, try not raging at anything, everything (excepting death) is solvable, so just chill out and live peaceful life.
Anyways, thanks for reading and greetings.
G'luck out there!
